The Year Of The Slave

Yes, I have not only been busier than usual, at times it's been like having a near MIA scenario played out. (Ooo, that sounds like fun. I know boi would like it...!) I have been out of the country and back again, shoring up and meeting with friends, helping with advice and care, throwing My weight around -- but courteously, and helping boi with this Big Ol' House of Ours, and winding down a decidedly rough year at work.

One of the things in negotiation -- well, not so much negotiation as the heel coming down on the throat -- is 2009 being declared by Myself as the Year of The Slave. boi has blitherblathered about being a slave versus a submissive versus a SAM versus being just a boi. Well, school's out -- literally and figuratively -- and so is the Sexy Beast that looks back at Me when I stand before the mirror. She is hungry and She must be fed.

Recently, boi aggravated Me -- the timing poorly chosen -- and I withdrew for a day or so. Not so much to punish boi as to really think, regroup, realign, take time for Me.

Shocked? Well, darlings, Doms do this occasionally and well We should, so don't drop your panties. I take My responsibilities seriously and while I do take care of boi, I realized I was letting the day to day grind take front and center. Well, I can't have this... if it's not fun, don't do it. This is My mantra.

Plus, the dynamic one has -- well, it changes as anyone with any common sense knows and or will admit. For good or ill, just like English is a "living language", this Life ebbs and flows for its inhabitants, twisting and turning on itself even in the most stable of relationships. Anyone who says that a relationship is the "same" and has never changed at all worries Me.

The following Saturday after boi's faux pas, We had a divine brunch together at a popular but out of the way eatery in Our Town. We were feeling good and frisky and had had a fun evening together. boi was told that I am about to put MY money where his mouth (and his ass) is. "You worry about being a good slave? A good submissive? A good play partner?"

My boi nods, wondering where this is going. We clink Our glasses together as I tell him 2009 is beginning early for Us. It's beginning that very moment, as a matter of fact. And I tell boi that 2009 is not only the Year of the Ox (and he can be as stubborn as one...!) but it's also The Year of The Slave. he seems excited and a bit more on point to Me these days. What a rush!

Pardon Me while I go get the cutlery. I feel a feast coming on...

Happiest of New Years to You and Yours. Back after the 1st.

Ma'am

Who's In Charge Here?

THERE are times, such as today, when it would appear that Ma'am is not in charge. Ma'am feels very under the weather. Ma'am is upset (and I don't mean over a manicure). Ma'am is tired. Life is kicking Ma'am around a bit...

"What can I get You, Ma'am?" boi is ready to help. "Would You like to give me-- should I be in control?" This last is spoken confidently if one is a casual observer. Ma'am sees boi's slightly bowed head, the widening of the eye. The spirit is willing but, as We know, the flesh can be weak.

NO.

boi reconsiders the proposition and looks for the right words. "Would You permit me to do my job, Ma'am? So I can take care of You? That's my job."

Yes, yes, and yes. Semantics are so important in Ma'am's household. Not just please and thank you, although those are important too. Those are givens. Well, they are here, anyway. And yes, indeed, Ma'am thanks boi when he has done something beyond the pale or has simply been good enough to bring Her a coffee.

boi intuitively knows when taking care of Ma'am means leaving Ma'am alone. This means making decisions for and about Ma'am as if Ma'am Herself were in charge -- instead of Her continuing to micromanage still in Her stilettoed or booted heels. This means dealing with Ma'am's fussier than usual behaviour and doing what needs doing, because Ma'am is not always Wonder Woman.

100% of the time, Ma'am is going with the flow -- 100% of the time, decisions are thrown in Her direction and Ma'am has to think FAST on Her Ferragamo'd feet for Herself and boi.

Do Other Doms REALLY think they are totally 100% in charge all the time? Not if they have an authentic sub, slave or servant, they aren't. Ma'am does not care what these Pufnstuf figureheads say... the Alpha Slave, the Boss Dog of the barnyard, the Top Cat -- these persons are the ones who truly make it happen if they are worth their collective salt. They are the ones who "Make It So", especially if The Dom has captured the heart and mind of the submissive.

Yes, boi can and will make things happen -- "because it makes Ma'am happy" -- as do so many slaves and submissives-- and eventually, to an Outsider, that submissive appears to be "in charge". But make no mistake, it very often is part of that dynamic, part of that kink there, for that particular D/s or M/s...

AND it can surely bite A Dom in the ass... how many times do You hear a Dominant say, "If other people don't like how My sub handles things, I just tell them she is My sub not theirs." Not bragging, just stating this is the b.s. some Doms have to put up with from other Doms... But most Doms do "get" this.

Many Doms do indeed have authentic subs or slaves, intelligent folks who don't simply Stand and Model but roll up her or his sleeves and "get 'er done." Because god knows, Ma'am refuses to crack a nail... kidding. Just kidding. geez...

How many times do You hear complaints from other Doms about these Alpha Slaves being "uppity" or "dissing me" (it doesn't matter that the slave doesn't know the Dom, she or he should kowtow to the unknown)? How their Owner doesn't know how to handle that boi, that girl, that slave, that submissive? Ever wonder what these Doms For A Day would look like under My heel?

Stick around. You might find out.

Ma'am

Ma'am and Her boi

Ma'am and boi have a fluid gender bender relationship that suits Her if nobody else. Ma'am suspects it makes boi immensely happy especially when She is smacking him around and about, giving him a little bit of rough trade attention.

boi likes it rough. Ma'am likes to reward boi with what makes Her happy and if boi has been especially G.O.O.D., She enjoys rewarding boi with what boi needs, wants and likes.

When all these bits come together, hellzapoppin' ain't the word for it in the dungeon, in the bedroom, in the wherever.

Ma'am also suspects most of their friends are completely supportive and totally fine with the two of them in Their World and Welcome To It. They know Ma'am and boi are completely supportive with and for them, as well. It's a fine, fine life as the saying goes.

Because Ma'am and boi are fun. Yes they are. They have fun and all kinds of people say they are fun and sweet and kind to strangers in this strange land many are called to but few seem well equipped for.

boi is a total rascal which tickles the fancy of so M/many of Ma'am's and boi's friends and acquaintances. Ma'am acts slightly scandalized when he's a rascal, because it makes people giggle -- if somewhat nervously.

What will Ma'am do to boi NOW?! they wonder and titter and out and out ask.

Stick around. You might find out.